Controlling Negative Emotions

As our life full of challenges, life commitments like family, work and etc.  Over the time, negative emotions will build up in our life without noticing us. If we don’t handle it well, it will jeopardize our life. Here are some tips who to handling negative emotions.

Take time for yourself.

Facing negative emotions is not easy, but it is a part of everyday life. The ability to control your emotions and overcome the suffering you feel is needed to maintain mental health. For that, make time every day so you can do fun things.

  • Everyone feels pleasure in different ways. Maybe you enjoy doing activities that make you able to control your emotions.
  • Another example: chatting with friends, walking, listening to music, or doing soothing activities, such as meditation.

Practice self-consciousness

Be aware of the emotional response that you give in the face of what is going on. Think first about the reaction you will give to a difficult situation. [12]

  • Instead of reacting instantly to negative events, try to distance yourself mentally for a moment to recognize your emotional response. Many are helped in this way, for example by breathing deeply several times or counting to ten before reacting.
  • Observe what you feel for not judging. This gives you the opportunity to prevent the emergence of an impulsive reaction so you can be wise.
  • Being aware of emotions will help you greatly in communicating and in relationships.

Practice writing the journal.

Journals you can use to control your thoughts and feelings. In addition to making you able to realize emotional reactions, writing journals are also beneficial to mental and physical health by boosting the immune system and relieving stress. Begin writing a journal by answering the following questions:

  • How did this affect my feelings? Or does it have any effect on my feelings?
  • What do I know about myself and my will through this feeling?
  • Did I judge the emotional response I gave? What assumptions do I use to rate?
  • Write the journal at least 20 minutes per day.

Use Words as a Tool to Feel Better

Words are powerful, and every word or statement comes out from our mouth may determine our decision making. We can tie together that power to alter our emotional condition. When the time we’re feeling down, we need to educate ourselves to make use of our words to progress—and even change—our circumstances, rather than just describe it.

For example, when you’re feeling disappointed, you might choose to say, “I could have done better and going to try it again and I will succeed this time around.” This statement will make you feel more empowered than if you used words as a tool to express your condition: “I’m a failure.  Why I’m always failed.”

It’s a daily task, it takes practice and self-discipline in order for us to develop this practice, but it’s crucial if we desire to apply our determination over our emotions.

Remember, emotions are things of superb beauty. It forms a larger part of what makes us as human, and they allow us to be completely alive. Life would be extremely dull if we weren’t able to experience such a depth and breadth of emotions!